Happy 2012 to everyone, and welcome to my first blog of 2012.
My holiday season in Upstate NY was fun filled being with my family and relatives. I wish it could have been longer! I hope that your holiday season were as good.
On Christmas Eve, there was a guest that attended my family's gathering which was a mirror reflection of myself. Only a Japanese version. Let me explain, a family friend have been working in Japan for his company which is based in Upstate NY which he apparently brought home a Japanese girlfriend. She spoke with a broken English accent. While figuring how they communicated, apparently he spoke some Japanese to her. It was interesting to see a couple that was similar to my boyfriend and I. He learned some Japanese, so he spoke what he knew to the girlfriend and the girlfriend learned some English as she had spoke in a broken English accent. There was several times when he had to interpret for my English speaking relatives for her. Just like my boyfriend and I. We both know English, but he still had to learn ASL to communicate with me. I try to use my voice to talk to him to have him understand me. He had to interpret for me with non ASL signers like his family, co-workers, friends.
Seeing the Japanese guest at my family's Christmas Eve was a weird experience. It was my first time experiencing something like that. I caught the family friend talking in a fast paced English with like three of my uncles, while she stood behind him with the expression of being lost in her face. She didn't know what they were talking about. The men burst out in hard laughter, and she put on a fake laugh to blend in. I knew EXACTLY what she was feeling.
I was taken back, as I didn't think that what deaf people experience could be so alike to what people who speak a foreign language experience in socializing with English speaking people. I just didn't think of it. I have seen many other language speakers in New York City several times, but it never occurred to me what experiences they have. Which can be a lot alike to the deaf community experiences. It was a first time to have a foreigner up close socializing among me.
Even through I never talked to her, we still have that bond. The bond of sharing the same experiences of dating a person who relies strongly on speaking English. I know that I know English too, but I don't have people that always understand me because of my "deaf accent". Many deaf people have a "deaf accent", which could be a whole new language with million of deaf people existing in the world.
This experience showed me that deaf people aren't alone. There are million other people out there in the world that can relate to our experiences.
Just as I thought I was alone at that Christmas Eve party, I wasn't.
